<![CDATA[Jim and Bonnie - Meet Bonnie]]>Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:53:56 -0800Weebly<![CDATA[There Are No Grandchildren]]>Sun, 30 Nov 2014 02:34:09 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/there-are-no-grandchildrenJesus called the children to him and said, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these." (Luke 18:16)  Children have a wonderful faith.  It's simple and easy.  For the most part if you love Jesus your young children will love Jesus too.  However, they still need to have a real faith built on relationship with God that is meaningful to them.  The entrance into the kingdom is being born again.  And your children need to be led into that.

The Spirit will draw your children to Himself.  What you need to do is be ready to tell them how much He loves them and how precious they are to Him.  That He loves them even more than you do.  Speak to them of His greatness, mercy and grace...His wonderful love.  What you are doing is preparing the soil of their hearts to receive the incorruptible seed of Christ, which is eternal.

For little children, keep the message of salvation simple.  Ask them if they would like Jesus to come into their heart and be their friend.  Tell them that Jesus is your friend and He wants to be their friend.  All of our children asked Jesus into their lives as very young children.  We prayed for them to be filled with the Holy Spirit and they all spoke in tongues.  As they matured their experience deepened.  All of them wanted to be baptized when they were in elementary school.  We didn't make them understand the fullness of what they were doing.  The Holy Spirit was prompting them.  That's what happened to us when we were baptized.  I had no great revelation as to why I wanted to be baptized I just knew I wanted to be.  Don't expect the theology to be completely understood for God looks at the heart.

Just like Samuel was a child when the Holy Spirit called to him expect your child to hear from the Lord.  When the Lord first called Samuel in 1Samuel 3 he didn't recognize whose voice it was.  After running to Eli three times in response to the call, Eli finally figured out that the Lord was calling Samuel.   He informed Samuel that it was the Lord’s voice he was hearing and then instructed him to go and wait to hear it again. When he did he was to say ‘here I am Lord, I am listening’.  In the same way, we need to instruct our children to listen and then ask them what the Lord said.  Never devalue or criticize what your child says.  Instead, encourage them that they can hear and that God wants to speak to them.

Children believe that God can do and will do whatever they ask.  How simple is that?  Jesus said if you ask anything in my name I will do it.  Children don't have the unbelief of the world system blocking their thinking.  For this reason when they are told that they can lay hands on the sick and they will recover, they do it and believe it will transpire.  Children can and will do great exploits.  All they need to know is that they can and He will do the rest.  It's that simple - for the kingdom of God belongs to these! 

<![CDATA[Forgiveness Part 2]]>Mon, 06 Oct 2014 19:21:22 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/forgiveness-part-2Picture
It is interesting that in Matthew 18:21-35 Peter asks Jesus how many times do I have to forgive my brother or sister.  It is more likely that the people that are closest to us will hurt us the most.  Relationship comes with a price and that price is the ability to forgive and keep on forgiving.  At the end of this parable in verse 34 Jesus says the person that does not forgive will be handed over to the tormentor unless you forgive them from your heart.  Forgiving a person does not mean that what they did was right.  They may have been completely wrong and it doesn't excuse their behavior.  However, what forgiving a person does is releases you.  

As parents we can be offended by our children.  They may embarrass us, say hurtful words, be exasperating, do thoughtless things or  ...the possibilities are endless. As you correct your child, teach them to apologize for what they have done.  Tell them what they did and then have them say ‘I am sorry, please forgive me’.  Then it is necessary for you to say ‘I forgive you’.  This pronouncement is most important.  It releases them and you from the bondage of offence.  Don't say it's ok because it's not.  If it was they wouldn't be apologizing!  After you have exchanged forgiveness, pray together.  Ask God to forgive the two of you and come and touch your lives with his grace.

There will be times when you are wrong.  Yes, it does happen!  Then you go to your child and ask them to forgive you for whatever you did and have them verbalized I forgive you.  Then pray together and ask the Spirit to heal any hurt or offence and cover you with His love and grace.  At this time it may be necessary to forgive yourself and release yourself from the expectations and self-abuse.  Simply say I forgive myself for..., then ask the Holy Spirit to come and fill you with His love.

Siblings have a great knack of offending one another.  It is very necessary for them to forgive and release offences they may have toward one another.  You may feel this coming out in jealousy, envy and strife or some kind of tension.  Offence can come out in an attitude of disrespect.  Don't let these issues continue to fester and don't ignore them.   They may need some alone time but ultimately you need to teach them to say I am sorry, please forgive me and I forgive anyone that has hurt me.  Be aware of the discord that offence will bring to your home.

Forgiveness is in the individual's power to give.   It is a choice and is given freely.  It doesn't come with conditions such as never do that again or an expectation that it won't happen again.  Forgiveness has nothing to do with feelings.  Regardless of how you feel you can say with your mouth I choose to forgive you.  It is amazing that when you do that the feelings will line up.  This is a kingdom principle and it releases freedom to the whole being, body, soul and spirit.  Teach your children to forgive.  

<![CDATA[Forgiveness]]>Wed, 01 Oct 2014 04:41:29 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/forgivenessPicture
Forgiveness is key to opening the door to freedom.  Without forgiveness parents and children become bitter and resentful.  Forgiveness empowers a person to let go of the hurt that would want to hold them prisoner.  When we don't forgive we are held to an incident or to a person.  We then view life through the glasses of that unforgiveness.  Therefore, not forgiving holds one captive today and will shape your child's future tomorrows.

When Jesus was teaching the disciples to pray he said pray like this...”forgive us our trespasses as we forgive others, and lead us not into temptation but deliver us from the evil one. For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you.” (Matthew 6:12-14)  Interesting that the verse goes straight from forgiveness to lead us not into temptation and being delivered from the evil one and back to forgive.    Most of the time we like to separate these verses but they are linked.  When something happens to us in life that causes us offence or hurt we are faced with a decision.  Do I forgive and let the pain go or do I hold on to it?  I know that sounds simple but it truly is.

Forgiveness is the letting go or the renouncing of resentment, indignation or anger you feel as a result of a perceived offense, disagreement, or mistake.  Forgiveness stops demanding punishment or restitution.  The Oxford English Dictionary defines forgiveness as 'to grant free pardon and to give up all claim on account of an offence or debt'.  When we are hurt, our feelings are telling us that the situation is not fair.  This only leads down the path of evil because that offence will grow and will takeover your mind, will and emotions.  Thoughts will be consumed with the situation and how you feel.  Before long resentment for the person creeps in, we become angry and all we want is retaliation.  That resentment unchecked leads to hatred, violence and ultimately murder.  Oh, you my not be one given to violence or murder but the tongue is a sword and will cause pain and separation in people's lives.  All of this becomes a root of bitterness that Paul talks about in Hebrews 12:15, “See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God and that no bitter root grows up to cause trouble and defile many”.

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<![CDATA[Nightmares - What's in Your House?]]>Tue, 23 Sep 2014 05:43:57 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/nightmares-whats-in-the-housePicture
A nightmare is defined as a bad dream that bring feelings of horror or fear.  Your child will usually wake up in a panic and need you.  A night terror on the other hand is when the child starts screaming or calling out but is not really awake.  Both are harassment and show spiritual activity.  Psalm 91:5 says: “You will not fear the terror of the night”.  Psalm 4:8 says: “In peace I will lie down and sleep for you alone, Lord, make me dwell in safety”.

Therefore, we can be assured that nightmares and night terrors are not of God.  If they are not of God then we know they are of the enemy.  The question that needs to be asked is: what is giving the enemy access or what is harassing my child or my family?  We found that when we prayed for people to get set free in our home that one of our children was particularly affected.  This child has a perceiver anointing and could see things in the spirit, both good and evil.

There are several keys to help your child have peaceful sleep.

1.  Check you house for any access point the enemy has.  On one occasion when the children were restless we discerned there was something in the house.  We got out of bed and began to pray.  The Lord directed us to both a tapestry and a book about a wizard that friends had given us.  We had not shown the children the book, as we were unsure about the subject matter.  But we had put it away because it was a gift.  We took both articles out of the house and put them in the garbage.  We then prayed through the house and took authority over every unclean spirit that we felt was there and released the blessing and peace of God.  Why did we do that?  Well, your house is a refuge and you need to protect it and keep it clean.  Not everything is, as it seems.  So be led in prayer by the Holy Spirit.

2.  When the children are going to bed pray over them. Speak Psalm 91:5 and have them repeat after you that their sleep will be sweet and they will not be afraid.  Ask God to speak to them in the night season.  The word says that our spirit counsels us in the night season so ask God to speak to them as He spoke to Samuel.  Read the bible to them and peaceful stories that will bless their spirit.  As you are putting them to bed tell then you love them and that angel are watching over them to protect them.

3.  Put worship or the word on in their rooms as they are going off to sleep.  The word or worship will wash over their spirit and bring them peace.

4.  If they wake up with a nightmare take authority over the spirit of fear.  The enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy.  He wants to steal peace but Isaiah 32:18 says my people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest.

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<![CDATA[Hyper: Renounce It]]>Wed, 17 Sep 2014 03:45:18 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/hyper-renounce-itOne value of ours is peace in the house.  When the children were in the house they didn't tear around, use loud voices and cause commotion.  They could go outside and hoot, holler and run around all they wanted.  Fresh air meant a good night’s sleep!

However, we noticed that when we would visit certain families our children came home wired.  Or if they watched certain programs on TV they would be hyper.  They were not usually hyper in anyway nor did we encourage it.  What we began to realize was that because the children were wide open to outside influences, their behavior mirrored the children we visited or the program they watched.  

The solution to having the children back to normal is simple.  We discovered the word “renounce”.  What a great word!!  The dictionary definition of renounce means to give up ownership of.   In Matthew 16:24 Jesus said to his disciples that we should renounce self; in Luke 14:33 we are told to renounce all we have.  We are to renounce ungodliness, shameful ways and all wickedness.  Titus 2:11,12 says: “For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men. It teaches us to say "No" to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age.” The grace of God actually is training us to renounce.  We need to train our children up in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it!

Therefore, we would have the children renounce the children, or the TV program and the spirit of disobedience, rebellion and hype.  Then we would bind the spirits and command then to leave the kids.  Then we would loose peace and obedience and ask the Holy Spirit to fill them.  

This practice became routine for us when the children were young.  We would literally leave a place, get in the car and say to the children repeat after me..."I renounce...” Your children need you to protect their spirit, as you should your own.  Children are vulnerable.  Just like there are predators in the natural there are in the spirit.  You want to maintain a clean and sweet spirit in your child, one that is open to the Holy Spirit working in their lives.   If these thing are unchecked, your child can be harassed and be exhibiting behavior that is not normally who they are.

This principle of renouncing is true for people, places and things.  Jesus said to his disciples that they needed to renounce themselves and follow him.  What does that mean.  How can I give myself up?  You are giving up your desires, your life and saying God you know better than me what's best for me.  

When we have moved cities or nations and left people and places we love behind how can we get on with what we are called to do in the new place?  We renounce them as we leave.  We thank God for each one and the wonderful blessing they are but then we renounce them, i.e., give up any ownership of them and give them back to God.  We want God to work to will and do of his good pleasure in their lives and so we pray that.

One time one of our kids came home from university.  After being back for about two weeks they spoke to us and said they were having real difficulty settling back into their home city, work and church.  After praying they realized they had not renounced the city, university and church from the other city.  Once that was done they were able to say now I take hold of everything God has for me here at this time.   With that revelation and prayer the longing for the one place left and the joy of being home returned.  

This is a powerful principle that Jesus taught his disciples.  We use this truth most days of our life.  We want people to be free from us and us from them.  When we are grateful for who they are, bless them and give them back to God, we are free!

Jesus said to His disciples, "If any one desires to follow me, let him renounce self and take up his cross, and so be my follower.” (Luke 14:33)  So therefore whomever of you who doesn't renounce all that he has, he can't be my disciple. (WEB ASV RSV)

<![CDATA[What's Coming Out of Your Mouth 2]]>Thu, 11 Sep 2014 05:28:25 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/whats-coming-out-of-your-mouth-2Picture
(First paragraph repeated from the last blog)The opposite of blessing is to curse.  When you curse something you speak death and destruction over it. Literally the word “curse” means to endure with power to fail.  Words like ‘you never’, ‘you can't’, ‘you always’ are cursing the child.  We never said those terrible twos instead we said those terrific twos.  When your children are having trouble with something, encourage them by saying they will get it or you can do it.  

What if you have spoken careless words over them, then what?  The first thing is for you to recognize that you have spoken them and ask God to forgive you.  Second, ask your child to forgive you for hurting them.  Third, pray over them breaking the power of every word and every weapon formed against them and break their power over them.  Next, ask God to heal their spirit and soul, to pour in the love of the Father to fill every void.  Finally, speak a blessing over your child.  Tell them you love them, believe in them and that they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them.  

You need to be your child's greats advocate.  Don't be afraid to be lavish with your words and blessing.  Speak to their destiny, calling, gifts and talents.  Tell them daily that you love them.  Constant repetition will reinforce their belief in it!   

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<![CDATA[What's Coming Out of Your Mouth?]]>Wed, 03 Sep 2014 05:33:23 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/whats-coming-out-of-your-mouthPicture
Your mouth is a powerful weapon!  With it you have the power to produce life or death as it says in Proverbs 18:21.  You have the power to shape, build and plant within your child.  The words you speak will feed their spirits like food to the body.  Just as the body is nourished and reflects what we eat so a child's mind and spirit develop and grow with the words that water it.  

Therefore, as parents we need to think about the words that come out of our mouth.  Your words should edify your children bringing strength, comfort, wisdom and blessing.  Thoughtless words crush the spirit and pierce like a sword but the tongue of the wise brings healing according to Proverbs 12:18.  Right from the beginning of our child's life as parents we have a responsibility to speak words of life over their children.  They need to hear that they are chosen, loved, beautiful, smart, and thoughtful.  They can do mighty exploits.  Proverbs 12:14 says from the fruit of their lips people are filled with good things.  Your children are filled with good things when you speak positive encouraging words from your mouth.  This is called a blessing.  The word “blessing” means something promoting or contributing to happiness, well being, or prosperity.  This is what you want to produce in your child's life and you do it with your words blessing them.

The opposite of blessing is to curse.  When you curse something you speak death and destruction over it. Literally the word “curse” means to endure with power to fail.  Words like ‘you never’, ‘you can't’, ‘you always’ are cursing the child.  We never said those terrible twos instead we said those terrific twos.  When your children are having trouble with something, encourage them by saying they will get it or you can do it.  

What if you have spoken careless words over them, then what?  The first thing is for you to recognize that you have spoken them and ask God to forgive you.  Second, ask your child to forgive you for hurting them.  Third, pray over them breaking the power of every word and every weapon formed against them and break their power over them.  Next, ask God to heal their spirit and soul, to pour in the love of the Father to fill every void.  Finally, speak a blessing over your child.  Tell them you love them, believe in them and that they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them.  

You need to be your child's greats advocate.  Don't be afraid to be lavish with your words and blessing.  Speak to their destiny, calling, gifts and talents.  Tell them daily that you love them.  Constant repetition will reinforce their belief in it!

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<![CDATA[Feed Their Spirit 3]]>Fri, 29 Aug 2014 06:37:46 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/feed-their-spirit-3Picture
Teach them that there is nothing higher than the name of Jesus.  That in the name of Jesus demons flee, the lame walk and that they can place their hands on sick people and they will be healed.  When you teach them this you are teaching them that they have been given all authority because of the death and resurrection of Christ.  He is seated in heavenly places and so are they.  Teach them who they are in Christ and what they can do in his name.  One night when Joel was seven we heard a loud voice, "In Jesus name you get out of here!"  Jim and I ran to Joel's room and asked him if he was ok.  Yes was his response.  He said, “I saw this thing at the foot of my bed so I told it to go”.  We were very impressed.  He didn't come running to us, he had enough authority and wisdom to command that thing to get out of his room.  

Memorize scripture together as a family.  Even if you took one verse or a psalm a month and put it on the fridge and said it together once a day, that scripture would become part of them.   Then when it was needed, it would come back to their remembrance.  We were doing this with our two oldest once and our two year old was sitting at a little table working on a puzzle.  We didn't think he was listening at all but much to our surprise he knew most of the psalm.  Never under estimate a child’s capacity but do remember not all children are alike and some will memorize faster than others.  

Train your child's spirit and you will reap strong, powerful Christians that believe God, His word and live by the spirit. 1Timothy 4:7-8 says to train yourselves to be godly.  Children need guidance in training to be godly, so parents, that training responsibility falls to you!  Paul goes on to say physical training is of some value (although they need that too) but training in godliness not only has benefits here in this life but also for eternity.  We are talking about destiny in the hearts of our children. If we make the time to instruct them, they will reap eternal benefits! 

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<![CDATA[Feed Their Spirit 2]]>Thu, 21 Aug 2014 00:55:11 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/feed-their-spirit-2Picture
Teach your children to pray.  Children have a great faith.  Jesus said we must come to Him as a child if we want to enter the kingdom of God.  Why?  They just don't complicate things like adults.  Their faith is simple.  If God answers prayer, then I will ask.  When they hurt themselves pray for them.  Yes, comfort them and put on a bandage but also pray.  Show them that God cares about every area of their life.  When you are not feeling well ask them to pray for you.  Don't laugh at their prayers or think there has to be some kind of formula that they have to memorize to get God to answer.  Bless the food with them and get them to bless the food.  

Put worship music on in the house and in the car.  There are some fabulous worship CDs for children.  When our children were young we played The Music Machine, the Poke Dot Bear and so many others.   Let the music play in their rooms at night as they are going to bed or if it is more up-tempo, play it during the day and let them dance.  There are many CDs and DVDs available for children of all ages.  Kids love to see other kids worshipping.  

When they are older, take them to a church youth group.  Teenagers need to belong.  They need to be around other believers their age.  Don't be afraid to let them ask questions.  God is not afraid of them asking and He is very capable of answering.

Read stories to them that are faith based.  We would have dinner together as a family and after dinner Jim would often read a chapter from a faith-based book.  Something that we could discuss with them, inspire them and make them think.  Or he would read a true story of faith to inspire and stir faith within them.  Then we would discuss what God was calling us to do and ask them what they thought. We wanted them to grow up believing they could and would be mighty in God and do great exploits.

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<![CDATA[Feed Their Spirit ]]>Tue, 12 Aug 2014 05:57:57 GMThttp://www.jimandbonnie.co.uk/meet-bonnie/feed-their-spirit Picture
Proverbs 22:6 says: ‘train up a child in the way they should and when they are old he will not depart from it’.  The word “train” is a verb, an action word.  It means to teach a particular skill or type of behavior through practice and instruction over a period of time.  From the very beginning you are instructing your child on many levels with the hope that with consistency, healing and doing the child will internalize the skill or behavior.  This principle is true also with training your child in spiritual matters.

From before they can begin to truly comprehend what you are saying begin to bless them.  Speak scripture over them.  Isaiah 54:13 says that all your children are disciples, taught of The Lord and obedient to His will and great is their peace and their undisturbed composure (amplified version).  Speak the word of God over your child.  It will strengthen them and release the word into their spirit.  The word is alive and active and will do what it has been sent to do.  Say to them they can do all things through Christ Jesus, that they don't have a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind.  There are many scriptures that you can speak over your child's life.  Find the ones that have special meaning to you and speak the scripture out over them again and again and again.  Then, have them repeat the scripture with you.  They will be so familiar with it that it will be easy.  It will go into their spirit and when they need it that which is in them will come out.

Get a bible that is age related and read it to them.  Teach them the stories of the bible.  Walk them through it as a regular routine.  Discuss the stories and people involved, what they did and what God did for them.  Don't think that it is the responsibility of the church to teach them.  They have them only an hour or two a week.  You are placing disciplines in their life that will remain.

Teach them that they have a great big God that is merciful and full of love yet all-powerful.  That He loves them even more than you do.  Tell them they are God’s perfect plan for your family.  Show them the miracles that Jesus did and that He died on the cross for all including them.  Speak to them of the goodness of God.  You need to herald the message of the good news to them right from the beginning.

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