Agreement is the general term that implies similar or sameness of mind. It also means to harmonize. When it comes to children parents need to have singleness of mind. That will often take work in the form of discussion as to what you want to see in your children and then a way forward as to “how” you are going to execute the plan.
Children soon realize when parents don’t agree. They learn to play one off the other and often you are left with a good cop – bad cop scenario. Even if you are a single parent having others involved in the child’s care, then these situations need to be discussed and agreement found.
I have seen situations where a child calls continually for one of the parents. Why? Because they know they will get what they want. It is very important to consistently and in unity express the same opinions and actions.
When parents or carers work with different sets of standards the harmony within the family quickly evaporates. Children learn the art of manipulation and who to play to get their own way.
Jim and I would spend many a coffee time discussing the children’s behaviour, what needed to be tweaked and how we would go about it. We formed the same opinions and enforced the same strategies.
Take the time to discuss your children’s behaviour. Ask yourself the hard questions and then discuss with each other the plan of action. Come to an agreement so that you can run the race and not trip up over each other. In this way you will produce unity, which will result in harmony and a happier home.