Therefore, as parents we need to think about the words that come out of our mouth. Your words should edify your children bringing strength, comfort, wisdom and blessing. Thoughtless words crush the spirit and pierce like a sword but the tongue of the wise brings healing according to Proverbs 12:18. Right from the beginning of our child's life as parents we have a responsibility to speak words of life over their children. They need to hear that they are chosen, loved, beautiful, smart, and thoughtful. They can do mighty exploits. Proverbs 12:14 says from the fruit of their lips people are filled with good things. Your children are filled with good things when you speak positive encouraging words from your mouth. This is called a blessing. The word “blessing” means something promoting or contributing to happiness, well being, or prosperity. This is what you want to produce in your child's life and you do it with your words blessing them.
The opposite of blessing is to curse. When you curse something you speak death and destruction over it. Literally the word “curse” means to endure with power to fail. Words like ‘you never’, ‘you can't’, ‘you always’ are cursing the child. We never said those terrible twos instead we said those terrific twos. When your children are having trouble with something, encourage them by saying they will get it or you can do it.
What if you have spoken careless words over them, then what? The first thing is for you to recognize that you have spoken them and ask God to forgive you. Second, ask your child to forgive you for hurting them. Third, pray over them breaking the power of every word and every weapon formed against them and break their power over them. Next, ask God to heal their spirit and soul, to pour in the love of the Father to fill every void. Finally, speak a blessing over your child. Tell them you love them, believe in them and that they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them.
You need to be your child's greats advocate. Don't be afraid to be lavish with your words and blessing. Speak to their destiny, calling, gifts and talents. Tell them daily that you love them. Constant repetition will reinforce their belief in it!
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