6. Having decided a way forward with the school, also be prepared to be the one driving the process. Each classroom has numerous students and schools can have hundreds attending. If you don’t keep in touch your child can disappear through the cracks. If they said they would get back to you in two weeks and they haven’t, call. If they haven’t done what they have said, call more repeatedly, gently reminding them of what they said they would do and that you want to simply know if they have. A teacher has twenty children wanting their attention, staff requirements and forms to fill in, lessons to plan and marking galore. It is possible for your child to slip below the sights, particularly if he/she is a quiet, well-behaved student. Never assume the school has it under control, keep checking.
At times radical change is necessary. Our youngest was not that impressed with school. She was struggling and we knew it. School to her was “what you did after the weekend”. We decided that in her best interest we would home school her for a season. We said to her that we wanted her to read. Read whatever she wanted. She started out with young picture books way below her grade level. We never said that was too young for her. We wanted her to have a sense of accomplishment not frustration. She read and read and read. She would read silently and occasionally to me. Yes, we did other activities. We continued to do maths, we baked, swam, skated, went on field trips to the beach but she read. What we wanted her to develop was a love of reading, to feel she could. We told her she could. In one year her life changed. She finished high school with great marks, did the same in her “A” levels/college, was the head girl in her school and finished with a university degree.
If we had let the school system dictate what she could or couldn’t do her story would have been very different. You know your child. My hope for you is that you will have the wisdom to know what to do when something needs to be done.