This is what transpires in parenthood. The moment you hold your first child in your arms you begin to die to you. I remember Jim getting up at a meeting and announcing that I was pregnant. His comment was ‘now we get to die to ourselves some more’. The moment your baby cries you want to make it better. Your child needs new shoes, and so do you, there isn't even a question who will get them first. Even after the nights that a child is sick and you have been up all night when they cry again you muster the strength and find your way to them. This is the law of love at work and that supersedes your personal comfort and desires.
I was chatting to a young woman who was sharing with me that many of her colleagues are opting out of parenthood. The reason is simple it costs! They don't want to give up their life style, the summer holidays in beautiful hotels, the ski trips, the weekends away, their sleep...life as they have come to enjoy. In fact the birth rate in some western countries is declining for this very reason.
Having children does cost and that cost is your personal liberties. The thing is you change. The very things that once gave you pleasure pale in comparison to your child's needs. Seeing your child being blessed and cared for brings you pleasure. This is the law of love.
As you hold your child for the very first time something takes place in your heart. It swells and melts with this overflowing feeling like liquid love. Love never fails. It may cost you personal liberty but parenthood is well worth the price.