I don't think there is a person on the globe that has not had to deal with feelings of rejection at some point in his or her life. In fact the enemy uses any and every opportunity to bring rejection into our lives. Why? Because it is the opposite of acceptance! Our heavenly Father is love and this perfect love cast out all fear. He loves and accepts us without our performance or behavior lining up to a list of laws. Even while we are sinners he loves us. He knows exactly who we are and yet he loves us - even with all our warts and wrinkles. Rejection on the other hand is a feeling of “I am not good enough”, therefore I must try harder and harder to improve myself, and then I will find love and acceptance.
Rejection is a three-fold cord with the strands being rejection, fear of rejection and self-rejection. When a person feels rejection, fear begins to play out in their life. They begin to think people don't like me...every time I meet new people they look at me funny. The mind begins to play repetitively thoughts that no one likes me; I can't fit into this group. Our thoughts create scenarios, and accompanying these, are the feelings of rejection and fear of rejection. These two feelings lead to self-rejection. When we feel rejected by others we begin to feel that something is wrong with me. I am not pretty enough, smart enough, and athletic enough, or cool enough and I will never measure up. So, we begin to hate ourselves thus rejecting who we are and who God created us to be. We become our greatest critics and begin to make proclamations like I am so stupid or I can't even do anything. The enemy will gladly add to the list of failures and inadequacies that will increase and increase. If left unchecked, this process can lead down many ill-fated roads.
Rejection works itself out in people’s lives in various ways. Once it is unveiled you can see its devastation in our society. Children, and adults react to their feelings of rejection through rebellion, disobedience and lawlessness. The thought is: “you don't like me so I don't like you either”. If I can't get your attention by being who I am, then I will get attention whichever way I can. Rebellion is only one of the fruits of rejection. Depression, anxiety, self-harm, alcohol, drug addiction and suicide are also. Our society is full of young people harassed by rejection, fear of rejection and self- rejection.
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