Category: Words

What's Coming Out of Your Mouth 2

10/9/2014

(First paragraph repeated from the last blog)The opposite of blessing is to curse. When you curse something you speak death and destruction over it. Literally the word “curse” means to endure with power to fail. Words like ‘you never’, ‘you can't’, ‘you always’ are cursing the child. We never said those terrible twos instead we said those terrific twos. When your children are having trouble with something, encourage them by saying they will get it or you can do it.

What if you have spoken careless words over them, then what? The first thing is for you to recognize that you have spoken them and ask God to forgive you. Second, ask your child to forgive you for hurting them. Third, pray over them breaking the power of every word and every weapon formed against them and break their power over them. Next, ask God to heal their spirit and soul, to pour in the love of the Father to fill every void. Finally, speak a blessing over your child. Tell them you love them, believe in them and that they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them.

You need to be your child's greats advocate. Don't be afraid to be lavish with your words and blessing. Speak to their destiny, calling, gifts and talents. Tell them daily that you love them. Constant repetition will reinforce their belief in it!

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What's Coming Out of Your Mouth?

2/9/2014

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Your mouth is a powerful weapon! With it you have the power to produce life or death as it says in Proverbs 18:21. You have the power to shape, build and plant within your child. The words you speak will feed their spirits like food to the body. Just as the body is nourished and reflects what we eat so a child's mind and spirit develop and grow with the words that water it.

Therefore, as parents we need to think about the words that come out of our mouth. Your words should edify your children bringing strength, comfort, wisdom and blessing. Thoughtless words crush the spirit and pierce like a sword but the tongue of the wise brings healing according to Proverbs 12:18. Right from the beginning of our child's life as parents we have a responsibility to speak words of life over their children. They need to hear that they are chosen, loved, beautiful, smart, and thoughtful. They can do mighty exploits. Proverbs 12:14 says from the fruit of their lips people are filled with good things. Your children are filled with good things when you speak positive encouraging words from your mouth. This is called a blessing. The word “blessing” means something promoting or contributing to happiness, well being, or prosperity. This is what you want to produce in your child's life and you do it with your words blessing them.

The opposite of blessing is to curse. When you curse something you speak death and destruction over it. Literally the word “curse” means to endure with power to fail. Words like ‘you never’, ‘you can't’, ‘you always’ are cursing the child. We never said those terrible twos instead we said those terrific twos. When your children are having trouble with something, encourage them by saying they will get it or you can do it.

What if you have spoken careless words over them, then what? The first thing is for you to recognize that you have spoken them and ask God to forgive you. Second, ask your child to forgive you for hurting them. Third, pray over them breaking the power of every word and every weapon formed against them and break their power over them. Next, ask God to heal their spirit and soul, to pour in the love of the Father to fill every void. Finally, speak a blessing over your child. Tell them you love them, believe in them and that they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them.

You need to be your child's greats advocate. Don't be afraid to be lavish with your words and blessing. Speak to their destiny, calling, gifts and talents. Tell them daily that you love them. Constant repetition will reinforce their belief in it!

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Feed Their Spirit

11/8/2014

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Proverbs 22:6 says: ‘train up a child in the way they should and when they are old he will not depart from it’. The word “train” is a verb, an action word. It means to teach a particular skill or type of behavior through practice and instruction over a period of time. From the very beginning you are instructing your child on many levels with the hope that with consistency, healing and doing the child will internalize the skill or behavior. This principle is true also with training your child in spiritual matters.

From before they can begin to truly comprehend what you are saying begin to bless them. Speak scripture over them. Isaiah 54:13 says that all your children are disciples, taught of The Lord and obedient to His will and great is their peace and their undisturbed composure (amplified version). Speak the word of God over your child. It will strengthen them and release the word into their spirit. The word is alive and active and will do what it has been sent to do. Say to them they can do all things through Christ Jesus, that they don't have a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind. There are many scriptures that you can speak over your child's life. Find the ones that have special meaning to you and speak the scripture out over them again and again and again. Then, have them repeat the scripture with you. They will be so familiar with it that it will be easy. It will go into their spirit and when they need it that which is in them will come out.

Get a bible that is age related and read it to them. Teach them the stories of the bible. Walk them through it as a regular routine. Discuss the stories and people involved, what they did and what God did for them. Don't think that it is the responsibility of the church to teach them. They have them only an hour or two a week. You are placing disciplines in their life that will remain.

Teach them that they have a great big God that is merciful and full of love yet all-powerful. That He loves them even more than you do. Tell them they are God’s perfect plan for your family. Show them the miracles that Jesus did and that He died on the cross for all including them. Speak to them of the goodness of God. You need to herald the message of the good news to them right from the beginning.

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Dealing With Rejection

7/7/2014

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So what do you do when you discern rejection in your child's life?

1. Remember, this is the work of the Holy Spirit and he wants us to have life and that in abundance. Your reliance is on him to set the captive free. Ask him to come with His anointing and lead you as you pray.

2. Depending on the child's age talk to them about the situation. We sat with Becky at four years of age and Jim asked her if she remembered her birth. She said “no” so Jim asked the Holy Spirit to come and reveal it to her. The child does not have to understand the situation. Their soul was wounded and their spirit bound and they feel the effects of that in their life.

3. After an explanation, you as the parent need to take responsibility and ask the child to forgive you. I asked Becky to forgive me for not being there, for hurting her, for rejecting her. The response to this is “I forgive you”, which Becky said.

4. Invite the Holy Spirit to come right into that time in their life. There is no time in God; He is the same yesterday, today and forever. He will come into that experience and heal the pain. Ask Him to and He will.

5. Now use your authority in Christ and take authority over the spirits of rejection, fear of rejection, self-rejection and rebellion. Bind them in the mighty name of Jesus and command then to go. Loose your child's spirit to the freedom in Christ. Please note, in no way does this have to be loud or scary. Just use your normal tone of voice but mean what you say. For us it was a precious sweet healing time.

6. Invite the Holy Spirit to fill every void and to fill your child with acceptance, love and the peace of God that passes all understanding. Let his mercy and grace flow.

Jim prayed for Becky and I that day. We had a super natural experience. He prayed that we would bond and that love would fill us both. I sat with Becky in my arms for two hours and we rocked in that chair together. We cried and cried and cried as the love of God moved powerfully to do what only he can do. It was amazing.

The thing that was most astonishing was the profound effect it had on her behaviour. She was never the same. Most people that know Becky can't believe there was ever an issue. She was obedient, respectful and fun, a pleasure to be around (she still is!) But that was a major milestone in our life. You see what we learned was you can't discipline a demon. We were trying to change Becky's behaviour by outward means but God works from the inside out. That's called grace, His divine influence on our lives and it's outward expression. When you are free inside, your behaviour is different. If your child is being harassed by a spiritual force, then you need to deal with it. In the same way, when a child gets cranky because they are tired, you need to put them to bed, if their are reacting to something spiritually you need to pray and set them free.

Watch for rejection in your child's life. We had many sessions praying with the kids forgiving friends, each other, teachers, employers, grandparents, themselves and us. Children hurt one another on the playground. They can feel ostracized from a group, like they are not good enough. Be on top of how your children are feeling and don't be afraid to talk to them and pray with them. In this way you will keep the enemy from getting a foothold in your child's life and you will train them to deal with these issues even when you are not there.

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Reckless Swords!

28/3/2012

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“Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me.” What a ridiculous saying! Granted the sticks and stones can wound a person but cuts and bruises heal. Words on the other hand wound a heart and inflict the mind! Many live a lifetime trying to get over the painful words from their parents, teachers and other significant people in their life.

Words have power; power to build and create a hope and a future. Power to encourage, strengthen and call to destiny. This is the power of blessing. However, words also have power to tear down, bring a sense of failure, fear and frailty. They have power to reject, isolate and disappoint.

The word ‘hurt’ means to infect pain, physical or mental; to harm, impair, grieve or offend. Careless words do hurt. As the most significant person in your child’s life think about your words and choose them wisely. Think to yourself, ‘What can I say to my child today that will bless them and inspire confidence and self worth.’

Tell them they are beautiful, that they have lovely eyes. Tell them they have a big heart and that you so appreciate all the kind things they say and do. Even if you only see it a little, speak it over their lives and it will produce life in them. There is a proverb that says the words of the reckless pierce like swords but the tongue of the wise brings healing. Strive to be wise with your words.

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What's Coming Out of Your Mouth 2

What's Coming Out of Your Mouth?

Feed Their Spirit

Dealing With Rejection

Reckless Swords!

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