The answer to this question is not an easy one nor do I think there is a blanket answer. What I do know is that most mothers do not want to go back to work after they have held their baby in their arms. Many do to fulfil an obligation but are not thrilled about it. I personally have never been in favour of dropping off my child to a nursery. I considered raising my family as a calling on my life. However, I did go back to teaching for a season and we hired a nanny and gave her very specific instructions as to what our expectations were concerning the family.
So I have been in both positions.
The major issue is, ‘what comes first?’ We made the decision that our family came before career. It takes a lot of emotional energy to stay on top of all the needs of four children. To be fully engaged, to be present when they need you or even when they think they don’t. If your career wipes you out and you feel you have nothing left to give to your family, then perhaps its time to have a good look at priorities. Always review your life. There are times and seasons for everything. Perhaps a compromise is necessary or a change of position.
One thing I do know is you are the most important person in your child’s life. At the end of a person’s life I don’t think there is one person that thinks I wish I spent more time at the office.
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