Physical touch in the form of affection will convey love, acceptance, protection and care. It says to your child, ‘you matter to me’, ‘you are important’. A child will gain emotion, strength and security from your hugs. I find passengers coming out of the arrivals department at airports such an inspiration. You can see all the people arriving along with those that have come to pick people up. When it’s a loved one, either a friend or family, the first signs of recognition come over the face. The eyes light up, a smile comes across the face, then it’s “the embrace”. The tender moment that all have been waiting for: ‘Mummy’s home’, ‘Daddy’s back’, or ‘Grampa is here!’
It is interesting how a parent’s heart can melt when their baby begins to smile. What a delight! A smile indicates affection because the one looking at the smile perceives acceptance. You can say a great deal to your child through your smile. It says, ‘I am so pleased to see you’. It conveys to your child acceptance and pleasure. Combine a smile with picking them up and giving them a hug and a kiss and you have communicated to them, ‘I love you, you mean a lot to me’.
Children need to feel the tenderness of physical touch from their parents. Your child is a gift to you and not only do you need to say, ‘I love you’, but you need to back those words up with affection and feed their soul.