The very word honour means to highly esteem, appreciate, to value and respect. It implies that you prize someone, set a high mental value upon them that carries with it approval and affection.
If you want honour in your life then you need to model that to your children and the first place to start is with your partner and then your children.
I have a friend that when we first met she went on and on about her husband. She would cut him down and constantly speak poorly of him. I finally got so sick of it. I told her that I did not appreciate her talking about my friend that way. She was shocked! She truly had not seen that her negative talk showed disrespect and lack of honour. She changed and as a result her family is strong today. How can you say, “I love you” with one breathe and then immediately speak critically and judgementally about that person? It is disrespectful and it dishonours.
As Moms we need to model honour in the family. Ask yourself a question. Do I value my family? What words are coming out of my mouth? What you say to your children about them and about their father will effect what they then think.
Words are very powerful. The words you speak over your spouse or children will either show respect, value and honour or disrespect and lack of honour. Thus what you are saying to your family is either “I do or I don’t value you”. If you want to sow value, respect and honour into your family then you need to begin to speak it out.
In my own experience, if I begin to dwell on negative thoughts of my husband or children before long I am speaking with a lack of respect and honour. I have found a good practise is to list the many positive qualities I see in them and then begin to express it. Speak it out when they aren’t there and speak it over them when they are.
One of our practises in our home is to write in the children’s birthday cards what a blessing they are, what we see their lives and who they are becoming. The reason we do is simple. It’s because it gives us another opportunity to express value and honour to them. Words of affirmation say we prize you. It carries approval and affection, which displays honour.
Practise honouring your family! It will create respect and you will partake in a happier home.