As THE educator it is always important to know what your child should be able to do at various stages of development. Those expectations can then be deliberately developed even through a child’s play. You can gear the activities you do so that they will impart the training necessary to your child.
I went back to work at different stages through our family years. At one point, after having our fourth child, we hired a nanny. The first three were in school and there was just one at home. We left our nanny with a very specific set of instructions as to what our expectations were. There were games that needed to be played that had a purpose, cooking to be done together, music and dancing, swimming. We had specific learning outcomes that we expected to transpire. However, the most important thing for me as the parent wasn’t that educationally my child was growing but that she was happy overall.
A school cannot be held responsible for your child’s education and growth. You are the parent and that means you are responsible. Be in tune with your child’s educational growth. What are the expectations for their age? Encourage them always. Tell them they “can do it”. Praise them heartily when they do something creative or they do something practical. It is all part of their education at whatever age.
I remember spending hours with one of our children working through maths homework. It was year seven (grade six) and the whole unit was hard work and very discouraging for her. When the time came for the test, she failed. The comment on the test paper from the teacher (who was also the head) was if she had studied she would have done better. I was furious! We made an appointment to go and see the head. It’s a good thing my husband was there because I felt like punching him. Jim held me back.
You see we came to the defence of our child. We knew this was not right and that actually we were not happy about their outcomes and expectations. As a parent you will need to step in at times and intervene.
As for this situation, it turned out only two in the class had passed. I then asked him what he was going to do about it because it wasn’t taught well. The bottom line was I was angry over the comment he spoke over my child. He apologized and re-taught the class.
As the parent you need to be aware of what the learning outcomes should be and how your child is coping.