Now it is time to look at the behaviour that you are not happy with. There is a proverb that says even a small child is known by its actions. So what is the behaviour that you see that needs to change? Take stock! Are they responding to you when you call? Do they lip back to you? Are they prone to pouting or tantrums? Do they say sorry, please forgive me? Are they watching too much television, Wii or computer? Are they polite, are their manners internalised?
Don’t be afraid to look at your children with fresh eyes and do an assessment. Believe me other people notice when children are acting poorly or correctly. So it’s time for you to have a good look and ask the questions.
Having made your list of the behaviours you would like to see change, choose the one that you would like to see improve first. You can’t change all behaviour at once but you can take the one thing you would like to concentrate on first. Write it down. Now, if you have a partner, it is best to work through this process together, and then agree which behaviour you want to see corrected first.
Agreement between partners is paramount. If you do not agree on what behaviour you are going to tackle and how you are going to accomplish it then you are defeated before you begin. Children require a unified front from all parties involved.
Once you have accomplished a state of agreement you are ready to look at some strategies that can change behaviour. Remember it is never too late to work with a child. Your child is yours to steward and it’s far better that correction comes from you then another source. You are making a difference in your child’s life.