However, at the time it is best not to laugh at them. You see the response they have at two or three isn’t what you want to see in them when they are seven or fifteen. It is important to know what you want in them as adults so you can begin forming that in them from the beginning.
I find that many parents are afraid to say ‘no’ to their children. Because we live in a culture that is expensive and demanding many families find themselves in the position where both parents work. As a result many parents live with a sense of guilt and with a fear that if I say no to my child he or she will dislike me and then I will lose out on the relationship. So the demands of the child get catered to more and more.
A child needs you to say ‘No’ to them. No, you may not have that toy or that chocolate bar right now. No, you may not watch that programme. No, you may not stay up any longer. They need you to set the boundaries firmly in place and to know that your ‘no’ means ‘no’. Even when it is difficult for you to establish, your child needs to know you love them enough to set boundaries. I was in the supermarket the other week and a child asked its mom for a chocolate bar. She said no. Of course the child’s response was to start crying and making a scene. The mother instantly responded with the chocolate bar and gave into the demands. Yes, the mother was relieved that her child was now quiet but this creates a huge problem. The child just had it confirmed in its mind that the way to get what I want is to make a scene.
Children need to know that they can’t have everything they want nor when they want it. We need to cultivate patience and not selfishness in a child. Start when they are young. Don’t be guilted into feeling you must give them everything they want. Be the cultivator of what is best for them and use your right as their parent to say that dirty word…. NO!