She has no idea the pain her mother went through to bring her into the world, the preparation that had gone on at home or the sleepless nights she is going to cause. The amazing thing is her parents don’t care. Why? Because she is loved! Once the child is at home and routine settles in it is important that mo matter what age, you express your love to your children.
There are two important expressions of love: affection and affirmation. Affection can be as simple as stroking your child’s face or playing with their hair or giving a hug. Out of our four children two of them loved massages. I took Jared to a baby massage class and learned the importance of rubbing their feet and massaging down their little legs to straighten them out and massaging the hands. He grew up to be a sucker for a back massage. In fact both the boys appreciate a back massage. At other times it is just good to sit with them and put your arm around their neck or sit with them on your knee. Be affectionate with your child.
Affirmation is expressed with words that build up. You words are powerful to you child and they need to hear you say these three words… ‘I love you!’ ‘You are beautiful!’ ‘You’re so smart!’ These words build confidence, security and self worth.
Put the two keys together – ‘stoke their hair and say I love you’ – and you have a dynamic duo! When you are in the midst of homework, laundry, making lunches and running the kids to swimming lessons remember the day they were born and the feeling of love you had for them. They are a gift so take to time to hug them and tell them: ‘I love you!’ You will both reap the reward!