I suggest you make a list of at least 5 – 10 positive attributes you see in your child. This should include gifts, talents, features and strengths. For example you may see that your child has beautiful big eyes, a lovely voice, is friendly, great at encouragement, artistic and is determined. Take the time to write them down and then celebrate them.
What I mean by celebrate them is to be thankful for the gift of life, who each child is and the person that you have been given to influence. It is human nature to see negatively but we need to step beyond what gets under our skin and focus on what is good, right, honourable, and praiseworthy.
Cultivate an attitude of gratitude for your family. Your attitude will permeate the home either like perfume or onions. So make your list and begin to be thankful for each member of your family. This is important with partners as well. You are creating a culture that will honour your family.
Now speak what you see over each child. Tell them what you see, even if it is only in an embryonic form at the moment. You will begin to water that quality and call it out in them. Your words are very powerful and can affect them their entire life. So make them sweet! As you do this it will build their self-esteem. You could even write it down on a card and put it on their wall or their door.
Speak these and the three most powerful words to your children on a regular basis. You are cultivating a positive environment that will stem from a heart of gratitude.
Oh, the three other powerful words that will produce confidence in your children’s life: “I LOVE YOU!”