However, for many there will be mixed emotions. The struggle of letting go and expanding boundaries for your children can be stressful and is known as parental anxiety. Anxiety is distress or uneasiness of mind caused by fear of danger or misfortune. The thought of handing over your baby is an unknown and means the child is out of your supervision.
There are all the “what ifs” to think about. What if she cries and clings on to me, what if he hates it or what if he loves it and doesn’t miss me! This state of apprehension is normal. It is important that you deal with your fears so they will not hinder your child.
Children can feel tension within their parents. If you are worried and uptight about leaving them or if you are emotional, chances are your child will be also. They will soon sense that there is something to feel anxious about.
I remember taking our youngest child to kindergarten. I was emotional. She was the last of four and this meant a new season in my life. The family was growing up. I didn’t feel fearful but I felt the loss. I got her in the door and handed her over to a great teacher that I trusted very much. She started to cry and I felt awful. The teacher said she would be fine and I knew she would be so I kissed her good-bye, told her I loved her and that I would be back to pick her up. Then I went outside and cried.
I knew she had picked up on my emotions. She was very ready for school but it was me. I had to deal with my stuff. Don’t ignore your feelings they are part of life. After I meditated on my thoughts and feelings I released my child to grow into the next stage of childhood and was grateful for the gift of life. Then, I went and enjoyed my coffee!