1. Put the report card on the shelf and don’t open it in front of your child. The focus needs to be the child not what the report card says. Ask your child how their day was, their highs and lows. Leave the report card unopened. You want to give your unconditional love to your child regardless of their successes and disappointments at school.
2. Read the report after the children are in bed. In this way you will be able to digest what is being said without being interrupted. The other thing is you can be free to express any disappointments or concerns with your partner. Often your face tells a story. Your facial reaction to something you read might not be what you want to convey to your child.
3. Highlight the positive points in the report. Every child should have something that the school can say that would be a blessing. Comments like she is attentive, he is creative. (If they don’t have positive comments refer to point 5 for what to do) Highlight them with a pen so your child can see what is the “good and positive”. Let your child focus on these and praise them for it. Tell them how proud you are of them. Look for any improvements and point them out.
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