Today I was looking for our chequebooks, which are really rapidly becoming dinosaurs. I simply could not arrange a bank or Internet transfer so had to relate to this old, antiquated means of exchanging money. I couldn’t find the chequebook. I had looked through all the papers I had brought with me from the UK. I went through our folders for important documents like passports. Nothing!
I was frustrated as this was really important and I wanted to send it today. I asked Bonnie and she said I think I saw it in your sock drawer. Of course she found it immediately. I was really annoyed with myself as it was my safety precaution. I mean what robber would ever look in your sock drawer for valuables?
Bonnie handed it to me as she went into the bathroom. I followed her into the room. She caught my expression in the mirror and responded; “Don’t look at me with that tone of voice. It wasn’t me that hid it in his sock drawer.” Dang! Caught again!
There is something really deep in the psyche of men, at least this one, which wants to blame the women. You know when you’re late for an engagement and the man says, ‘I was waiting in the car for my wife’. The bible story of creation says Adam, the first man, blamed his wife first and then God for his disobedience. He said to God that it was the woman who God gave to him that made him sin. Double whammy of stupidity! Nothing has really changed since then.
If we aren’t blaming our wives for what has happened we are blaming God. Someone gets seriously ill and we blame God. Or we have personal financial problems and its God’s fault. It is a very strange thing to do when you don’t believe in God and equally not a very wise thing to do if you do believe in Him. But that’s what men do.
In the story of creation Adam could have taken responsibility for what he did wrong but he didn’t. According to the bible everything went down hill from there for mankind. As much as it seems intrinsic to our nature to blame women for our shortcomings I think we, men, can rise above this tendency by taking responsibility for situations of our own creating.
If we don’t accept responsibility, how can we be surprised when our wives become embittered or angry towards us? How would you like to be blamed for something that you didn’t do? It really isn’t very honouring to blame your wife for being late. It may seem like a small and simple thing so where’s the harm in it. But if you pile up enough small offences you will soon have a mountain that will eventually result in an avalanche of emotional distress.
Harmony in marriage would vastly improve if we, men, took responsibility for our actions. Thank goodness for forgiveness!
(image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net)
I was frustrated as this was really important and I wanted to send it today. I asked Bonnie and she said I think I saw it in your sock drawer. Of course she found it immediately. I was really annoyed with myself as it was my safety precaution. I mean what robber would ever look in your sock drawer for valuables?
Bonnie handed it to me as she went into the bathroom. I followed her into the room. She caught my expression in the mirror and responded; “Don’t look at me with that tone of voice. It wasn’t me that hid it in his sock drawer.” Dang! Caught again!
There is something really deep in the psyche of men, at least this one, which wants to blame the women. You know when you’re late for an engagement and the man says, ‘I was waiting in the car for my wife’. The bible story of creation says Adam, the first man, blamed his wife first and then God for his disobedience. He said to God that it was the woman who God gave to him that made him sin. Double whammy of stupidity! Nothing has really changed since then.
If we aren’t blaming our wives for what has happened we are blaming God. Someone gets seriously ill and we blame God. Or we have personal financial problems and its God’s fault. It is a very strange thing to do when you don’t believe in God and equally not a very wise thing to do if you do believe in Him. But that’s what men do.
In the story of creation Adam could have taken responsibility for what he did wrong but he didn’t. According to the bible everything went down hill from there for mankind. As much as it seems intrinsic to our nature to blame women for our shortcomings I think we, men, can rise above this tendency by taking responsibility for situations of our own creating.
If we don’t accept responsibility, how can we be surprised when our wives become embittered or angry towards us? How would you like to be blamed for something that you didn’t do? It really isn’t very honouring to blame your wife for being late. It may seem like a small and simple thing so where’s the harm in it. But if you pile up enough small offences you will soon have a mountain that will eventually result in an avalanche of emotional distress.
Harmony in marriage would vastly improve if we, men, took responsibility for our actions. Thank goodness for forgiveness!
(image courtesy of FreeDigitalPhotos.net)
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