
When you are looking at what to change start small. Everything that is huge started small. Their attitude and response to you may not be good but to change that you need to undermine it by changing small apparently insignificant things first. You are then demolishing the roots that support and nourish that attitude. It is easier, more effective and will create change.
Agreement, within yourself as well as in your partnership whether together or apart, is the first step to a better future for you and your family. If you can agree and be consistent, you will see change. Add an excessive amount of praise and affirmation to a healthy atmosphere of love and tenderness with deep respect for your child and you will be successful in forming loving, good, healthy children. You will earn their respect and that of the rest of the community.
When you start on this process, to change one thing at a time, remember it is as much about you changing as it is the children changing. You are learning new skills in terms of relationships. You are exercising new parenting muscles and at times you will ache from the process. But don’t be too hard on yourself. Give yourself room for error and time to change too. Expect that you will blow it and totally mess up at times. That happens. When you do, forgive yourself, then keep going and start again. Don’t throw in the towel or quit. Simply start again tomorrow. A new day - a new start!
You will grow as a person through the process and so will your children. The process of change will become second nature and you will soon find that you have a very happy home. Praising your children will develop strong people who will be a blessing to you, their parent.
One thing at a time!
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